Girl Power Guide-Lines for Cultivating Positive Relationships | Post #2 | Know Your Timing

We have all had our fair share of heartbreak, failed friendships, and rough patches, but as we move forward we learn from the mistakes we have made in the past and form new ways of developing and cultivating new and existing friendships. As we move forward in these relationships we learn to understand that all relationships should have purpose and that each person should be fully invested in the other persons growth. These Girl Power Guild-lines are created to give you a beginning point and a place to look when your friendships aren't quite turning out the way you would like.


The second guide-line we will be sharing with you will be about timing. Let's face it, timing doesn't come easy to all of us, but when the timing is right, we must capitalize; put all efforts into allowing yourself to cultivate the right relationship. The story behind it follows:

When the "perfect potential relationship" presents itself, you can't help but have the urge to crave that idealistic attachment. The catch is, is that it is purely an ideal, not a realistic expectation. These idealistic expectations are what make up romance novels, movies, and the best stories, but they add up to nothing in reality.

This "perfect potential relationship" is what I, Lea, was presented with. I saw this guy, when crowded by lust, and thought that "darn, he could be the one." When I let the dust of lust fall to the ground, I realized just how not okay this romantic relationship would be. He did not reach some of my basic qualities that I am searching for in my life -long companion. He didn't have the same beliefs on issues that were important to me, romantically. I need a companion can continually make me grow to know the Lord and as a team we can put God in the center of our relationship always.

I realized this when a small group of us got into a discussion at church. We discussed that the primary purpose of dating was to seek a potential partner to marry, and he disagreed. Yes, dating can be for pure fun and experiment, but at this time in my life I wanted to seek that partner.

Although this romantic relationship didn't take root, a great friendship did. We have the best of time together and we both made the choice that it was not the right time in either of our lives to pursue that relationship.


So, to bring this into your romantic or platonic relationship, here are the things to keep in mind:

1.) Catch the indicators

Ex. If it feels wrong, go with your gut. If something doesn't feel right in a relationship, it means one of the people in that relationship has lost trust for the other. Make sure that the person is invested and reciprocates the feelings. But also, don't be afraid to be the person who is vulnerable enough to give it a chance. "Lose the fear of being hurt by love."-p.s.

2.) Use reality as a lens

Ex. Like I said before we can't help the urge to crave that idealistic attachment. You have to let go of the idea that romance movies are what a romance is really like. It is so much messier than that. Love is more complicated than books, music, and movies make it seem. It isn't always stargazing and car rides, sometimes its cold outside and your hair a mess.

3.) Remember to LIVE YOUR LIFE

Ex. So much of our lives are spent wondering what people think about us, how we will react to a situation, and what we are going to say next, that we forget to let life happen. Go out on the silly dates to experience that part of your life.

This series will continue for the next several weeks. We encourage you to follow the blog as we tell all. We hope that you will grow with us as we remember the past and enjoy our silly moments just as much as we do. Find positivity today!

seek simple,

l.h and t.b.